So… maybe I will just be a soap maker :)

Hi all – sorry I have been away in my mind this year!

It has been a stressful year at work but all that has ended now after I didn’t sign a new contract, I am now unemployed. I loved my job, loved our team but the management has been awful and while some staff signed contracts under duress to keep their jobs 2 of us wouldn’t. Roger has no work either, however he has found private building jobs to do and has quite a bit lined up, we are hopeful he will keep getting enough to not have to go back to paid employment – his work kept running out and he decided he needed to source his own so left. Our 3 year plan of working for ourselves just came up and slapped us in the face two years prematurely but…we will survive I am sure πŸ™‚

Workplace stress has taken up my whole year, through my attachment to my place of work and the people there I have just kept going feeling quite committed to seeing it through, however the last few months has had me wondering WHY? There are some life things that can’t be changed and they are the stuff of real life. My son and daughter-in-law are expecting their first baby together and are 6 months pregnant with my second granddaughter. The wee bub has a serious heart issue and presently unknown brain abnormalities. While we wait to see if she survives pregnancy, birth and subsequent heart ops this is very real life. Workplace stress, even with all the best intentions in the world, is needless drama – I could choose to say no more and walk away, life will go on.

What it means though is I have to make a living from what I can do right now and I have been busy making all sorts, I can’t deny foraging the countryside for flowers is feeling much better for me the last few days πŸ™‚

Calendula, California Poppy and Violets

Calendula, California Poppy and Violets

Lots of soaps and different balms have been made and my first order went to the Winery. Woohoo!

patchrosepicolive leaf pic

I am already planning my next post on the therapeutic herbs I grow, so that’s a good sign considering how Away I have been πŸ™‚

The garden is all in and alot more fruit trees were bought this year, Roger is going to try espelier down the whole back driveway. The fruit and berries we froze last season have lasted us all year. We have used 3 different types every day for smoothies and still have alot left, enough to last till the first new berries etc. When you get to have raspberry, fig and peach (or similar) smoothies all year around on what you have grown in summer that’s pretty cool! We still have pumpkins, garlic, frozen vegetables, chutneys and sauce to last so while I didn’t appear to have much to post about last summer in reality we did better than the year before by just freezing everything instead of so much bottling of sweetened fruit we never ended up using because Wendy is not so keen on cooking these days – I think winter puddings are a thing of the past well and truly!

An update on Angus etc – they are all doing great and getting along fine πŸ™‚ This little guy brings us so much pleasure, he is such a happy, joyful wee dude.



35 thoughts on “So… maybe I will just be a soap maker :)

  1. M E Cheshier says:

    I am sorry to hear about your loss of job! But it does sound like that making herbal soaps and collecting flowers is a much more peaceful way of living. Blessings and may your new venture be prosperous!

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  2. Wendy, I am so sorry to hear of the serious problems your grandbaby is having. I hope she survives and is a fighter to overcome all her early problems.

    I know your job issue was a hard one for you and I am glad you have left, even if it means things will be tight for you and Roger for a bit. I do believe your soap making will be a success. I and my family have enjoyed our soaps. πŸ™‚ I can only imagine how much better you felt walking around searching for your flowers than you did in a stressful job. I know getting back outside was such a relief for me after being stuck inside.

    Good luck to you and Roger and enjoy those fruits. I put in several fruit trees this year so in a couple of years I too should have plenty to enjoy year round. πŸ™‚


    • Thank you Lois πŸ™‚ baby’s parents are two special people and I know she will be too. We can only hope she can hold on long enough for specialists to then do their thing, in the meantime a wobbly time for all. She will be much loved and yes, hopefully a wee toughie πŸ™‚
      The job has been awful for over a year, this was one way I could say they aren’t ok to work for anymore, I could make alot of noise on the way out. Our team is amazing though and very good friends and that won’t change.
      the day I woke up ith no job I was feeling pretty fragile, grabbed the dogs and we went out to the back blocks for a couple of hours with baskets, the most relaxed I have felt for so long, more appropriate!! πŸ™‚
      Alot of our fruit trees are self sewn and we spend years waiting to see what they actually are “Peach, Apricot…What sort of plum?” Nothing turned out to be an apricot so we had to buy one lol. And a Nashi too, do you get them there?


  3. I offer hearty congratulations on sorting out the important from the unimportant and stepping gracefully into the future – that takes courage! Of course you can be a ‘soapmaker’ though you are much more than that already. I have another order to place your stuff is much admired and used in this family! πŸ™‚ I love the image of you out in the countryside scouring for the wild flowers you need ❀

    I am sorry to hear about the unborn baby, I know this is very hard news for the entire family and especially the parents. All you can do is wait and hope. Sending you much love and good wishes for a happy outcome. xoxo


    • Thanks Pauline πŸ™‚ While I did step away a couple of years back I missed the stimulation but won’t be missing it this time that’s for sure lol. New management brings a new style and sometimes it’s just plain unhealthy.
      I actually love what I do with my herbs and flowers and find that a very peaceful past time so yes, just time to make it more. Thanks for your loyal custom πŸ™‚ x


  4. Well what a huge step and I can feel the relief through your words. We carers of the world tend to hang on far too long because we do care. Your soap looks amazing and is sure to be a lovely balm to your disappointment. I have worked for over 15 years with special needs children and I can say without doubt they are beautiful people to work with, and I have had some very rewarding times with them. I have learnt a lot from these children, all children do teach us things too don’t they. I hope all goes well with her birth, and that she pulls through the operations on her heart, if she is anything like her grandmother she will be a little fighter.
    Good luck with your new path in life, I think you will look back and think yes that was actually a blessing. x


    • Thank you πŸ™‚ Yes, I know changes are often difficult but always often a blessing and yes, we do tend to hang in there too long because we care.
      πŸ™‚ I also worked in special needs for 10.5 years and loved it. I know we will adore her and she will be an absolute delight if she makes it through and yes, she certainly will be a little fighter ….and thank you for the compliment πŸ™‚ xx

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  5. Wow, you have so much on your plate right now! I am sending love and positive vibes to the unborn child, parents and grandparents, may it all work out perfectly.
    I am slightly bemused… I have used your products and I LOVE them… I’m befuddled, confused and perplexed….. how are you NOT making your fragrant, moisturizing, and healing soaps, creams and balms on a full time basis??
    I wish you all the best for the future endeavors, and want you to know you have my full support. xx


    • Danella, thank you for your kind thoughts πŸ™‚
      Our wee girl will be very special to us all, we can only hope.
      well, up to now it has just been a hobby thing I could make a little out of but it seems whatever alternate path I keep choosing life keeps putting me back to this which is my ideal anyway lol. Thank you, you give me confidence πŸ™‚ xx

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  6. Welcome back Wendy and stepping out of predictable stress into unpredictable possibilities whilst initially terrifying is going to allow you to be in the best place for you and your family at the moment. I am a great believer in making space for new opportunities. You have been making some serious space and with most things in this world. if you create a space, something will want to come along and fill that space. Simple theorem of equilibrium really ;). I love that you still have an abundance of garden produce. I seriously think that this is one of your ways forwards. Teaching people how to do this themselves or writing a book about it. I would buy it. I would buy several! I have everything crossed for that tiny baby Wendy. Your soap is amazing by the way.


  7. Thanks Fran πŸ™‚ I haven’t forgotten we were going to write that book TOGETHER πŸ™‚ Been a crazy year or so, of wandering off the path then finding ourselves back here with nothing but – the Universe does conspire sometimes lol. And rather than fret, we are both smiling and knowing we are in the right place again now.
    Thanks πŸ™‚


  8. Oh wendy, I kept checking your blog forever and some how I missed all your posts for I was away:-( I was writing on other blogs and just checked back at the end of writing on other blogs and found-YOU WERE BACK!!!!
    It was late and I was unable to read through your posts for I wanted to catch up with your life.
    I am excited for your new grandchild:-) My daughter had so many tests it was scary and the fear they put into them etc…it went on and on and finally the two were born. Some issues were taken care of and they are crawling around and doing fine. I was a basket case. My heart goes out to you and I totally understand. IT is scary all the tests they perform today. I am almost glad I did not have to worry so much-on the other hand it is good they do know what to do for the babies.
    You are in my prayers:-)
    Wow-you have made some big changes. I have no doubt you will be successful. YOu have done great so far! You both are hardworking and so resourceful. I will have to stop by more often to visit.
    I no longer have comments on my blog and just post for information for people around me or those that want more info.. I felt like I just needed to work on post and not worry about comments. I will stop by the blogs of those that I enjoy visiting and reading…you are one of those:-) Just no time to visit and keep up with it all:-)
    Wish you all the best….those animals are so precious:-)

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    • Hiya! Yes, I had thought about doing the same on my blog Robbie. I get little time for it and littler time for reading others though I try to make a habit of checking for posts off my comments. I spend less and less time on the computer every month really so I hear you.
      Pleased to hear that about your grandies because I have been so worried. I do hope this wee lady will be ok, it’s awful to see your kids go through stuff like that.
      Yes, big changes here…hoping it goes ok!! Rather nerve wracking I must say!
      Aren’t the babies cute lol
      Thanks for stopping by, like having an old friend for coffee πŸ™‚ Take care


  9. Sending my thoughts out for your Grand-baby Wendy I hope all goes well there.. As for your Job.. I know the Universe has thought to plunge you into your Dreams a little early, but I know you will not look back…
    You know why I retired early as my work in Support was getting far too stressful and dangerous, Working one on One in mental health with challenging behaviours that turned in a split second into violence.. And no back up from bosses who left you lone working on double shifts as no bank relief staff turned up to take you off duty..
    It got even worse I was told after I left.. One lady worked a straight 3 day and night shift no relief.. totally against the law.. I was so so pleased I left..
    And although I found the adjustment hard at first.. I know your projects and soaps and balms will keep you busy.. And they will take off.. I am certain of it.. πŸ™‚

    So many stories I hear now of the Care going out of caring and the top bosses playing on loyalties to keep staff who care for those they look after..

    Any way I am sending you and your family Lots of love and thoughts Wendy. I know you and Roger will benefit in the long run.. Where there is a Will there is a way..

    Lots of Love..
    Sue xxx

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    • Thanks Sue, will see what time brings for bubs.Hopefully she is a wee battler.
      I know you had trouble settling after you left your job, the insecurity of no income isn’t a nice feeling either.
      You are dea right there, they play on your loyalties to keep you there but if you start being noisy they just want you gone. I loved my job and we had worked very hard to keep it a beautiful place to be, a wonderful team who have been treated really badly here. And you are so right, where organisations used to be about care, they are now just all business and profit.
      We will be ok, have to be don’t you?! πŸ™‚ Thanks Sue xx

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      • yes believe it.. You will be more than OK.. To say we are half a world apart geographically.. Those who run care centres and support projects put Profit before People… We too had a great team until our manager had enough of being put upon. when she went it went to pot.. it crumbled like a pack of cards.. after I left 3 more team members left within the next 4 months.. Then the new Boss also left.. I no longer miss it.. But I have been thinking of doing something voluntary helping the aged.. An organisation called Jigsaw… I am going to ring them up next week.. Its only a couple of hours a week.. It will keep me out of mischief during winter πŸ™‚ so I do not go house crazy πŸ™‚ lol..


  10. It’s just a shame! A shame when you work in a great workplace then it all changes like that through the actions of the hierarchy!! I have actually got the union involved as our contracts were not lawful so see where that ends up.
    That would be lovely for you πŸ™‚ Isn’t Jigsaw where people ask for help in finding their adopted out children/ biological parents?


  11. Wendy, I am finally doing my best to catch up with my fellow Villagers. I know what you mean about leaving a job for an uncertain future. But no future is entirely certain, is it? Your products are lovely and the packaging so attractive; I expect you will be working hard to keep up with demand before too long.

    I have said for some time now that with our own ‘health care’ system, that there isn’t much about health to it and there isn’t much about care, either. Not at the daily staff level; most of them DO care, but the bean-counters who control things are doing their best to bring the factory-efficient approach to healing and it’s not working well. My RN sister and I are staying with Mum (one or other of us, mostly her; but whichever of us is ‘on’, the other comes in daily for several hours to give the her a bit of a break). It has made such a difference! My sister has caught so many errors and failures to come even close to ‘best-practice’ procedures, that we are all extremely grateful to have her here and involved.

    I’m sorry to her that your grand-daughter-to-be is having some early challenges. It’s hard on young parents and then on their own parents, too. I have you all on my prayer list and am sending you love and light.

    All the best to you, my friend, and to your family, too. I expect to be back again soon. ~ Linne


    • Hi Linne, have been wondering how you are. It’s been a difficult year for you. I am spending very little time on WordPress, despite my best efforts to keep up I just am not. Have a lovely Christmas Linne, blessings to Mum.


  12. Are you a Grandma yet? dear Wendy.. πŸ™‚ counting the months from this Post πŸ™‚ from your daughter-in-laws and your Son’s first child.. πŸ™‚ A Christmas Baby maybe πŸ™‚

    Wishing you and yours a Very Happy Christmas Wendy.. Love and Blessings your way.. and you will never be just a soap Maker.. πŸ™‚ lol.. you are far far more..

    Love to you

    Hugs Sue ❀

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  13. I just stumbled across your blog and read your story about starting a business. How fantastic is that? Sorry about your job but maybe this is going to turn out to be a great adventure for you. I love natural handmade soaps so I would be very interested to find out how you’re going to be selling them.


  14. So now I’m going backwards. How do I get so left behind when I do try to keep up. Sorry to be so tardy to your post. Employment issues can really affect our lives in the worst way. Sleepless nights, Stress, Time management and who knows what else. I think your natural products, salves and soaps is just what the world is looking for right now and all so beautifully packaged. I’d much sooner support a local neighbour and friend than shop for a commercial brand at the market. I hope you do get to be a full time ‘Organic Products Entrepreneur’ πŸ˜€ Just A Soap Maker? Wendy, 99 % of your readers have no clue how to make soap, grow the products used or successfully market them for profit, including me! You and Roger have amazing ideas and drive xo K PS thanks a bunch for a picture of the crew, I’ve pinned it cause they are A-dorable πŸ˜€


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